Dear Readers, prior to me sharing my experience of my ROM, please mind that this post is strictly for Buddhist couples and Couples from different state/district.
Neither of us are from Selangor nor Kuala Lumpur. In order for us to get things done real simple, we have chosen to run this wonderful moment within Thean Hou Temple instead of district JPN, as the application for solemnisation and registration of marriage either in church, temples or association don't depend on your IC address. Otherwise, get your IC address changed to your preferred district JPN :)
Our ROM is rather simple. Due to my heavy work schedule, Bee had to kick start the application.
Date. We visited the temple on a Saturday. Got our date set on Chap Goh Meh like 4-5 months earlier. Next thing they'll tell you, get your forms ready, and explanation comes later.
Form. Bee got our form from JPN, Petaling Jaya. Popped into their office right at their opening hours, no leave is needed. Please do not download the form, it's colour printed in A3 size! Fill them up clearly. We had the Commissioner for Oath affirmed the form as this step is only necessary when you're planning to held it at church, temples or association! Other than that, JPN is fine.
Details. Details for the bride and groom. One (1) witness each. Generally, we'll pick parents, or relatives, perhaps friends. No harm getting blessings from strangers too ;p
Submit. One passport size photo each for both of us. Paid RM20.00 for JPN to endorse the form, with the presence of Bee and I. Note, both to be present!
Hand Over. It's another weekend, we dropped by the temple and handover our endorsed form. They'll highlight to you your time of visit, to bring original IC for bride, groom and witnesses, couple's dress code etc.
Pretty simple? Now it's the part where the bride concerns the most - Coats, Dress, Tie, Shoes, Heels, Rings, Accessories, Bouquet, Hairdo, Make Up, Guest list and Agenda!
Ladies, my advice, stay calm :)
- I use my white dress bought couple of years back.
- Formal wear for Bee, pairing red tie with the cool black attire.
- Match it with black heels (old ones too).
- Only a pair of earrings (yes, no necklace).
- Got ourselves a pair of gold rings (this is entirely up to you!).
- Booked a real reasonable bouquet online from a florist within the temple (easy pick up, hassle-free!).
- Hairdo & Make Up are done by a friend of mine. Simple, half-up, small curls, no, no fake eyelashes. Perfect!
- Mainly our parents, siblings, close friends, some relatives, made up around 15 - 20 persons attended the moment of our lives.
- Follow up with some photo shooting session within the temple area. A friend of ours did us a huge favour by taking photos throughout the ceremony, for free :)
- Took them for lunch in a Chinese restaurant, chit chat, letting both families to get to know each other more.
Woo-laa! Done! Often see people tends to focus more on the application than the agenda of the ceremony. The photo shooting session was quick, that we had to split into groups for free and easy, and meet up only when it's time for lunch. So peeps, plan your agenda wisely!
Photos while waiting...
Bee and I, along with our daddies as witnesses... All of us signed a form prior to the official ones..
Registrar will read the oath and follow by us... "I do..."
Signed a total of three certificates, two for us to keep, one for them
Exchange of rings
And it's finally happening :)
And this is us the new family!
Thanks a lot for your help!
We started at around 11.00am, and all ends well at around 3.00pm. It is totally a blessing from God to have all of you to be there with us on our big day! Truly heart all of you :)
Tips - Breakfast, handkerchief, wet wipes, bottle of water, Thean Hou Temple, Florist, JPN's Checklist
More upcoming updates on my preparation of our wedding. Stay tuned!